Relationship advice: Don’t take it personally, and don’t have temper tantrumsRelationship advice: Don’t take it personally, and don’t have temper tantrums
A girl in my class started flirting with me after her breakup. We got close to each other and I’m pretty sure she liked me. I started falling for her although none of us ever confessed. But after three months she patched up with her ex and now behaves with me just like a friend. What should I do? — AK AK, the German, vice chancellor, Helmut Sprung, wrote about how, a man wore a sweater during a harsh summer, always felt hot, and this would lead to temper tantrums. Helmut, of course, was talking about himself and was also trying to investigate the reason for his terrible skin abrasions in his mid-Forties. This caused him to do very unGerman like things, like cut lines at McDonald’s. Just like Helmut, you’ve got your seasons wrong. If she’s patched up with him, she’s in summer, and you are in winter. The ‘why’ is really not that important if that’s what she wants. You had three months of summer to make an impression. Don’t take it personally, and don’t have temper tantrums, you tired, you had a crack, but she’s gone back to the earlier season. C’est La Vie. I am a 23-year-old boy. I like one of the girls in my college for the last year. However, I am confused if it is true love or just an attraction. What should I do? — LKS There are many tests to prove you are in love. For example, if you go for Parsee Bhonu, with your love. Then you order two plates, ‘Kid Ghosh’. However, there is only one plate left. Do you commit the ultimate sacrifice known in Parsee Cuisine? Do you fall on your own sword? Do you actually order the one plate for yourself, and give her a bite? One whole bite? If you do then its true love. This method is known as the ‘Bhonu effect’. Generally speaking, if you are obsessed with her, think about her all the time, can’t get her off your mind, and feel like a million dollars when you see her, then its love. I know this to be true for a fact. That’s because as a nine-year-old, this is how I felt about the West Indian Cricket Legend, Viv Richard. Actually, I still do. In any case, you are 23, and single, why worry about how deep your love is? Go and seize the moment.